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Toni’s Repeat Tuesday: MY AOD

21 Aug

“Maturity is recalling the outrageous things your former spouse did to upset you, then turning over and going to sleep.”

– Eileen Dight


Another year has passed, so this is the 5th anniversary of my divorce, AOD. Over these past five years, I don’t think of them as painful, as much a a huge blessing. I am more than convinced that God was looking out for me and saved me from what could have been a huge disaster, even life threatening. You think you know someone after being with them and loving them for 43 years. But, you don’t. And the sad part is, it can happen to anyone…and it does. I was lucky. I don’t wake up sad everyday, especially not today. I say, “THANK YOU LORD.”


When I looked at my cell phone to see what time it was this morning, I realized it was Aug,20, the 4th anniversary of my divorce, (Today is the 5th Anniversary.) and the 5th anniversary of his moving out,(6 years.) Now, I pretty much did what the quote above said. I remembered how that afternoon he came from the court hearing, handed me the final signed divorce documents in my driveway, like he was handing me the newspaper, got back into his car, then drove away without a word. Anyone that cold and cruel just isn’t human or worthy of any more tears. I remembered that vivid scene this morning, then I turned over and went back to sleep.

I’m looking forward to Thursday, Aug. 23rd, when I celebrate the anniversary of my new home and my new life with a whole bunch of my very dear friends. That will be a fun celebration and post to share. PARTY!!!!! I’ll keep you posted. (My party is this Friday this year-stop over.)


So, when I was trying to think of what to write about today, I thought that repeating my divorce date today was the most appropriate. This is a good day to count my blessings and thank God, my friends, and my family for my wonderful life,

I looked up acronyms. I didn’t see one for A.O.D, anniversary of divorce. I guess, now there is one.

But, I did find a lot of funny quotes and memes and cartoons. I’m glad I can smile and laugh about it now.

I guess a lot of people have gone through the same thing or there wouldn’t be so many poignant and funny things to share. Here ya go…

Sunday Sermon and Some Sirens

19 Aug

Sometimes the Gospel reading is right on target. I think God has come to bring fire to the earth, and He started in Texas.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


It was already in the 90’s this morning, with a heat advisory for the day. I was able to greet and hug a lot of friends before Mass. I had to laugh when the Gospel mentioned bringing fire to the earth. It was quite appropriate for the recent weather.

Gospel, Luke 12:49-53

49 ‘I have come to bring fire to the earth, and how I wish it were blazing already!

My take on it… the word fire may refer to a different kind of flame. Jesus came to ignite us with his teachings, that He might light up the world with love. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could light up the world with the glow of love, harmony, and peace. Let’s work on that,

After Mass, Helene and I stopped at McDonald’s to chat and catch up on her trip to Maine and Canada and my trip to California. Then, I stopped at the store to pick up some last minute items for my dinner that I planned for my friends at Fire Station 9. I got the OK from the Captain last week to come by around 5 or 5:30.

As soon as I got home, I started baking my fruit upside cake, started the pasta sauce with Italian sausage, boiling the mostaccoli pasta, making the garlic bread, and preparing the salad.

Every thing was piping hot and ready to go. As I loaded up the back of my car at 5, wouldn’t you know it, I heard the sirens blaring. The station is just a few blocks away. I drove over there, called on the outside phone, and of course, the station was empty and all were gone on a call. They knew I was coming because I stopped after church to remind them that I’d be there around 5. So, I left a note taped onto the big glass window in the entry hall. It just said to call me when they get back. But, they may not see the note, so I’ll mosey over there in a minute and see if they’re back. Here I go…

I’m back. The guys were back at the station, and when I picked up the phone, I said, “Hi, it’s Miss Toni, You didn’t call me!” I was just teasing, but the young man said, “We just got back and we had some injuries.” Oops! He didn’t need to explain. They sent someone out to help me with my bags and bins. A few of them were already sitting at the table eating something. It was after 7 and they were probably starving.

I lined up the still warm foil covered containers, and cake, and ice cream and salad and garlic bread on the counter, and explained what everything was. Two kinds of mostaccioli, one vegetarian and one with sausage. There’s enough for a couple of shifts, and they said that they were still hungry and would put a good dent in the meal. They really appreciated the effort and home cooking.

I always enjoy baking and cooking for these guys. They are part of my family. We aren’t related by blood, but they certainly would, and do, put their lives on the line every day for us. That’s what family is about.

Speaking of family, I got to FaceTime with Belle, and Sophie and Joe and Lindsay and Nana today. I had a nice chat with my sister, too. I am blessed to have such a great family and great friends.

Happy Sunday my friends.

Wednesday:) When The Vacation’s Over

8 Aug

“Don’t be sad that the vacation is over. Start planning the next one.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


Well, I’m back home in beautiful steamy McKinney, Texas. It’s after 9pm and I asked Google what the temp is, and she said “The current temperature in McKinney is 91, but with the humidity it feels like 99.” Also, my AC was acting up before I left, and I made my Joplin’s AC appointment for Friday because I have Art Club in the morning. I had the AC set at 86 while I was gone, and it said 86 when I got home, OK, I turned it down to 80, and over the next few hours the readings went up instead of down. It’s blowing air, but now the thermostat reads 88. It doesn’t feel that warm, but maybe the thermostat is wonky? I’ll survive. So, back to my vacation,.,

Yesterday was my last day in beautiful Venice CA where the evening and early morn temps were around 68 and daytime in the 70’s. Matt had to work most the day, it asked what I wanted to do for my last evening. I said, “I want to put my feet in the ocean.” Now, that’s one big step for mankind! All my friends and family know that I’m afraid of water. But, you can’t go to the ocean and not walk by the ocean.


When a small wave rushed up by my ankles, I got nervous and walked further away. But, we did walk along the shore for a while, until the sun started setting. It was beautiful.

I took so many nice pictures that will make beautiful references for watercolor paintings.

Then, I wrote my name in the sand and watch the water come in and wash it away. Cool!

Matt then took me for my last vacation vegan dinner in California. A perfect end to a perfect visit with my California boy.

Thanks for the pick up at the airport Lynne. It’s so nice to have wonderful friends. Zelda took me to DFW and Lynne picked me up. I’m a nervous traveler, so having a friend give me a ride always calms my nerves. We’re so busy talking, I don’t have time to get nervous.

Happy Wednesday my friends. It’s good to be home. It’s sad to be home. I can always start planning my next trip.

Tuesday:) Tunes From The Hollywood Bowl

6 Aug

“Latin music has a rhythm that stirs your soul. All music can stir your soul, but all music doesn’t make you want to get up and dance.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


Saturday night, after an already busy day, Matt took me to dinner in Hollywood before the concert. (I didn’t get discovered in Hollywood, so I’ll be heading home tomorrow. Darn!) I had a crispy vegan chicken sandwich and fries that was better than anything vegan that I’ve ever tasted. And, probably as good as any.

We left the car at the valet at the restaurant and took an Uber over to the Hollywood Bowl. Wow! A very cool concert venue, and so well organized. Matt thought I would enjoy the Gypsy Kings, so he bought tickets when he found out the days I was coming to visit. How thoughtful.

Las Cafeteras opened for the Gypsy Kings. They had the crowd all wound up and dancing in their seats. They had a few political innuendos and commentaries woven into their songs, but if you didn’t understand Spanish, you wouldn’t get it.

The Gypsy Kings.


The Gipsy Kings

Melding flamenco, rumba, salsa, and pop to the tune of 20 million albums sold, the Grammy® Award–winning hitmakers The Gipsy Kings return with dance-ready furor, celebrating their 1988 eponymous breakthrough. It’s party-starting perfection forged by the raucous spirit of the south of France! Afro-Mexican folk-rockers Las Cafeteras open, making this two nights of high-energy guitar thrills.

It was a very cool concert. People were in the aisles dancing and singing and enjoying the awesome evening. Even leaving the venue was quick and orderly. Matt called for an Uber while we filed out and it was waiting for us at a ride-share designated spot in just a couple of minutes. Parking would have been a nightmare. He’s SO smart.

So, a few Latin tunes from Toni on this glorious Tuesday. Have a great day, my friends.

Montage Monday and More

6 Aug

“Time waits for no man. That’s because man is sitting on the sofa watching sports, or yelling at some commercial. Time waits for woman, because she’s making dinner, cleaning the kitchen, feeding the baby, and making sure the kids did their homework and said their prayers after their baths, then tucking them in for the night. Time has to wait.”

~ Unknown… (OK, it was me)


I just threw in that quote because time seems to be slipping away. I’ve been visiting Matt in Venice, CA for a week and I go home soon. The time just flew by. A very fun week with a lot of sight seeing, great vegan food, sunshine, entertainment, Sunday morning Mass, museums, walking, perfect weather, FaceTime with grand babies, and the very best part… spending quality time with my youngest son. He’s my knight in shining armor.

A week in a peek…

Yesterday after church and the Norton Simon Museum, Matt took me to an Italian restaurant that had vegan pizza. Seriously, it was delicious. I may not switch to a total vegetarian or vegan, but I’m going to give it about 90%.

For my penance, I had pizza in Purgatory. That was the name of the pizza place. Pretty appropriate for Sunday after church.

Happy Monday, my friends.

Saturday:) Some More Sun, Fun and Sightseeing in CA

3 Aug

“All I do is eat, sit in the sun, paint, walk by the beach, take naps, get waited on, and have fun. It’s like being on vacation. Oh wait, I am on vacation.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


Another leisurely day in paradise. Matt keeps telling me, “Now, do you see why I lobe living here?” I have refrained from saying, “Maybe your old, yet wonderful mother, should come and live with you.” I don’t want to give him a heart attack. He’s too young. It is beautiful, but I still love my McKinney best.

This. morning, I sat outside and finished the watercolor I was working on of some random old lady sitting by the pier. (I’m the random old lady)

We walked around town. There was a little street fair we strolled by. They only had one artist. I was surprised. The rest were selling jewelry, clothing, and touristy stuff.

Then, a nice lunch at the Mexican place where I loved the guacamole.

More fun murals on our walk.

We walked back home, and I did a little more reading until I started nodding off. Time for a nap. ( it’s a tough life)

We’re heading off to the Hollywood Bowl in a few minutes for a concert and a little sight seeing. Watch out! I might get discovered in Hollywood and never return home. STOP LAUGHING! Anything is possible!

Have a great Saturday, my friends.

Friday:) Fun and More Photos

3 Aug

“There are some things that you can fulfil with money, but at the end of the day these are not the things that make you happy. It is the small things that make life good.”

~Sebastian Vettel


Another fine day in Venice. A leisurely morning. Matt needed to do some work from home, so I started a sketch and watercolor outside. I didn’t get very far, when he said he was going to a coffee shop for a couple of hours to work. I said I’d tag along and walk around the shops nearby. I wandered over to a lemonade/lunch shop and sat reading a book.

I only read a dozen or so pages when a young couple, (a date, I think) sat next to me talking loudly. I couldn’t concentrate on my book about how to write a story. But, I did hear an interesting story from this couple. That was a more interesting story,

When Matt was finished with his office work at the coffee shop, we walked back to his place for a while. I did a little more painting, then we did a FaceTime call with my granddaughter. By now it was 5 pm, and I hadn’t eaten yet. Matt was going to take me over to the area where all the food trucks gather on the first Friday of the month, so, off we went.

We walked around until we settled on a few vegan options. We tried four or five different things.

After we ate, we walked over to see the homes along the canals. Duh! I realized that’s why they call it Venice, because of the canals.

There was still over an hour before sunset, so we walked down to the Venice pier to wait for the sunset and watch the surfers. I love sunsets.

Now, for the end to a perfect Friday. Black Russian Friday in Venice,